We All Have Enemy !


I used to think that, some peoples who are nice won’t have enemy. I mean, it’s impossible. They are nice, caring. So why people hate them ? It’s not logical, yet it happens. As a human, there’s a feeling inside us called jealousy. Want it or not, that feeling will stay inside waiting for the right time to come out and make us aware that we are rolled as a devil sometimes.

I don’t know what’s happened with me today. But somehow, I remembered what happened to me back in 2007 when I was a law student in the university. I wasn’t a saint but at least I never talked anything bad about others. Furthermore, I didn’t care about others’ test results. What I would do was finishing my study as fast and as well as I could. Means, I won’t get jealous although others got A and what I got is C. In my dictionary, I will get what I deserve. If I don’t study well I won’t expect to have perfect result. In the law theory this condition can be called: ”Causality Theory”. Back to the topic. I still remember that day clearly. It was one week before I graduated. Somehow, someone spread bad news about me. At first, I didn’t really bother since it showed no impact. However, I started to pay attention when this bad person hit the right note. He/she sent a short message service (sms) to a teacher who was known as a discipline person. She called me immediately although she didn’t know me at all (apparently one of her student is a friend of mine – that’s how she got my phone number). And as if it wasn’t enough, she forwarded the sms to the university committee. In a blink of an eye .. I became prominent in the faculty (at least among the teachers). At this point, I did take this matter seriously. The faculty committee did a session to decide whether I could graduate or not.

What was the SMS content? He/she said that I bribed some of the teachers so that I could take 2 subjects altogether whereas 1 of the subjects was a prerequisite for the other subject. Moreover, I was said to bribe them to get a good mark. *sigh*… This makes me realize that no matter how good you are, there’s always someone who hates you. You can’t run from it, but you can get ready for it. What are the impacts for me? For some time, I felt afraid to be close to someone, knowing the fact that they could hurt you deeply, also whenever I visited the faculty I was a bit afraid if all the people judged me as a bad person.  So, my suggestion is. When you are jealous with someone until you want to hurt them, think again:

Is it worth it?

Do you really want to hurt them?

Have you thought about the impact for them?

What are the advantages for you?

Are they hurting you or is it a jealousy since you can’t achieve what they’ve reached?

Trust me..you are a good person inside. You can’t let your evil dominates you. Think and think…before you start to destroy yourself.

-thanks to my sister-

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Wedding Party..*ugh*


Oh no….Don’t let me go to a wedding party again..

I’ve just been to a wedding party tonight, who were the happy couple ? Honestly, I have no idea. I went to the party because my mother didn’t want to go. The reasons were she was too tired because in the afternoon she had to attend an engangement party and apparently this couple was the relative she just “kinda” knew. Thus, obviously I didn’t know about this relative either. I just knew their names from the banner outside the wedding venue.

When you go to your first wedding party invitation, you are going to feel happy and excited. I mean, all the ceremony, all the food. But after several invitations, you will be bored as most of the parties have the same concept and ceremony (even the host talks about the same things in different parties). Plus, the songs. They are all the same.

Here is the list of songs for wedding (don’t choose this again please!):

1. I finally found someone - Bryan Adams and Barbra Streisand

2. The Prayer – Josh Groban & Charlotte Church

3. You’re Still The One - Shania Twain

4. From This Moment On - Shania Twain

5. Flying Without Wings - Westlife

6. L.O.V.E – Nat King Cole

7. When You Believe - Whitney Houston and Mariah Carey

8. Tonight I Celebrate My Love - George Benson

9. Eternal Flame

10. Everyday I Love You - Boyzone

11. Wonderful Tonight - Eric Clapton

12. When I Fall In Love – Julio Iglesias

13. When I Need You - Julio Iglesias

14. My Valentine - Martina Mcbride

15. Endless Love – Lionel Richie & Diana Ross

I was really wondering about the songs. Is it a proof that songs nowadays are not everlasting ? I mean, none of the songs above are products from the latest music industry. And I’m wondering if in the year 2050 the songs will stay the same…*sigh*

Anyways, I was also wondering which songs of our decade suit a wedding party.. I haven’t got any clues right now. Should be googling… Found Kelly Clarkson with “A Moment Like This”, Guy Sebastian “Angels Brought Me Here”, Alicia Keys “If I Ain’t Got you”. Nothing else. Seriously?? Perhaps any of you have suggestions?

editor : Melli

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preparation(2)


*sigh* I just got an information yesterday, that although I have the schengen visa I won’t be able to visit Swiss. Unfortunately, I have to apply individually.

I guess I won’t visit Swiss then. Good bye to all the chocolate…:( But my sister says, “You can still buy German chocolate, silly! The flavour won’t be different.”

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Because We Can’t Have It All..


Last night, my father and I visited a doctor. He just needed to talk to the doctor about his relative who was examined by this doctor. While they were talking, at some point they mentioned a topic “Make a choice”. The doctor, however, is still young but busy most of the time. Even on Saturday he has to work hard because the patients keep on coming. Honestly, he wants to relax on Saturday but he doesn’t know what to do. My father, on the other hand, succeeds to choose what to do about his job, so he can enjoy it more.

My father used to work everyday; Monday to Saturday. Then, at some point he realized that work wouldn’t give us everything. Yes, the money will certainly come to us. But life isn’t that simple. At the end of the day, the money won’t do us any good. He told the doctor how he tried to reduce his work time by eliminating “Saturday” from his list. He admitted it was hard and needed some time. All the clients would keep on coming back. So what he did was reducing his work time little by little.. so that people would only come to the office at a certain time. As a result? Right now, he can sleep a lot on Saturday, do his favourite sport, which is badminton, and spend the entire day with us. It’s healthier and relaxing. During short breaks after playing badminton, he can talk with his friends freely and no job topic. As for me? I have to admit that playing badminton every saturday kinda bores me sometimes. But, again. I will do it as long as it makes my father happy.

However, in our life, we will meet a lot of choices. Whatever choice we make will give us either bad result or good result. OK, after the conversation finished, we went home, I went back to my room and watched Grey’s Anatomy again.

Surprisingly, the episode I was watching was talking about the same thing. One of the characters from the series named Dr. Miranda Bailey apparently was facing the same problem. She was the resident’s chief, handled everything, and thought that she could balance her awfully super-busy job and her work as housewife. And what happened? She fell apart. Her husband left her since she seemed  unavailable for the family and spent most of her time working in the hospital. In the season finale (last episode of Season 4 ), she admitted that she couldn’t do everything and have everything at the same time and finally gave up one of her jobs to one of the residents  named Dr. Isobel “Izzie”Stevens. I don’t know whether it’s the rich decision or not. But it’s a positive thing that she finally realized that she had to sacrifice part of her job to spend time with her precious family.

Life is full of choices. Whichever we choose will decide what’s going to happen with our life next. Think wise and decide bravely.

“Life is the art of drawing without an eraser.” ~ John W. Gardner (American Writer and Secretary of Health, Education and Welfare, 1912-2002)

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preparation(1)


Ah..finally the holiday is coming. I’m so excited this time, after a tiring and stressfull final exams it’s nice to have a break-out.

This time, I’m going to travel around Europe. Well, not all of them because it will cost a lot of money and time. I have a very limited time. Since on September I have to enter the new semester. What do I prepare first ?

The VISA ! That’s the most important thing right. You won’t be able to enter other country without it. And, applying Visa can take you so much time and so much money if you are not careful.  You will have to read all the documents needed carefully either not you will end up forget one of the document that needed and will cost you lot of time. becausr you will have to go back and fulfill the requirement.I was a bit distracted when I’m taking care of my Visa application so I’m taking a long time to take care of it.

First of all, do you know about Schengen Visa ? It means, with applying Schengen Visa you will be able to enter 15 countries with only 1 Visa. But in this matter, I’m applying for German Visa since my first stop is that country. If you live in Surabaya, and want to apply for a visa make sure you headed to Dr. Wahidin Street. The Deutsch and Dutch Embassy are in the same street.  Don’t be fooled by the travel agents, the form is for free.

All you have to pay later is the official fee. So, no additional charges. I believe the fee is the same.  I ended up pay60 euro plus 45.000 rupiah( the shipping cost because they have to deliver my application to Deutsch Embassy in Jakarta). And the Visa will be asnwered for aroung 2/3 weeks.

Here are the documents needed for applying Deutsch Visa (per June 2008):

-if you have relative there, you will need to insert Verpflichtungserklärung which made by your relative/friend who live there. Basically it means that they guarantee our present while we are in Germany. They will add their personal information like their address, job, and the connection with us. And filling this form will cost them some money. I think is arund 50 euro.

-sponsorship letter ( if you are still under-age and live with your parents). You will have to make this sponsorship letter. The things that needs to be written is : That your parent are willing to guarantee all the expenses that you are going to make when you are travelling, and they also guarantee that you will come back to your original country.

-bank account.  if you are using someone’s elese bank account ( ex. your parents), you will have to give your parents identity card.

-4×6 photos with white background.

-travel insurance ( I apply from AIG for this trip)

-plane ticket

I will continue  all the preparations that I made later…

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Katherine Heigl on Emmy Awards Nomination Refusal


Hm…this topis is so old. But still, has brought a lot of discussions. Whether Katherine Heigl means that the writers are not good enough or she actually did a right thing ?

“I do not feel I was given the material this season to warrant the nomination”. This quotes is taken from Katherine Heigl.

My personal opinion? I don’t think she tried to attack the writers from Grey’s Anatomy credibility and skills. We have to remember, what make a series categorized as a good series ? When it suceed to deliver emotions to the audience. With the writers strike ( and I remember she support the strike as well) which caused a lot of series stopped in a sudden. None of the series for thie season ended well. All of the series (except the one that has ended before the strike take effect) fail to shows emotions because lack of continuity. It’s like when you are interested in someone..when you doesn’t do a lot of things actively to do some approach, you will be fail to deliver the sign or the emotion that you are expecting to be delivered. Believe it or not, I don’t believe all of the series that I have seen are as good as their previous work. Once again, I’m not attacking the writers I’m just saying my thought. And, when an actress refuse a nomination with that kind of reason it means, that she is aware about her own power.

Dr. Izzie Stevens are the main and most emotional character on the half of season 2 and season 3. But on season 4 ? I don’t think the main problem is on her again. This is also the problem when a series has alot of main character. Each of the character has to share the spotlight. On the 4th season, I believe and agree withKatherine refusal. I think that Sandra Oh and Chandra Wilson’s character are the ones that should end up as a nominator. Because I do think both of them are the important character for the 4th season and they dleiver it well.

Sometimes I’m wondering whether I will brave enough to deny something good that has came to me, when I do know that I don’t deserve it because deep down in my heart I know that I’m not that good. I still can’t answer it right now. But I do respect others who brave enough. I also do hope that the writers, Shonda Rhimes don’t feel offended but try to talk about the real reason. I don’t believe Katherine Heigl will be stupid enough to break down all the good stuff that has come to her because of Grey’s Anatomy.

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Movie - Nim’s Island


All right, last Saturday I ended watching Nim’s Island played by Jodie Foster, Gerard Butler and the talented little girls Abigail Breslin . Before I talk about the movie, I want to say that I’m very impressed with with Abigail. First, I watched her on “Little Miss Sunshine”, then on “Chestnut” and finally I watch her again on “Nim’s Island”. I can say that the other little girls Dakota Fanning has to be aware that she got the competition right now. This girl is funny and talented. Her next movie will be

Ok, now back to the movie. While watching this movie’s trailer couple weeks ago, I really do think that this movie is going to be a great family movie. I mean, you have all the great ingredients. Great actress? done. Great actor ?done. Great little girl? done. So, what’s wrong with the movie ? I really do think that the storyline is a bit weak. Which mean, the storyline don’t give enough space for the 3 main casts to explore and show their true ability in acting which I can understand because it will be hard to share same space for the 3 of them. Further more, the story seems shallow and too easy which make some things look so irrational compared to the what happens in the real world. For example, a little girl has fallen from the volcano and she’s okay with the injury?. The storyline itself can’t bring the emotion that the scene suppose to deliver to the audience. As a result, I didn’t hear any laughing or “oh–ah sound “during the show. Which means the sad or funny things don’t sucess with the audience.

Movie rate : 5/10

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Human or Animal ?


There’s an old saying that I find interesting. Peoples said that emotion is a thing that make us different from the animal. Back when I was a child, I really didn’t know what’s the meaning. I just nodded so nicely and agreed with it. I mean, who really cares about that when you were 8 years old ?

Right now, that thought suddenly come to me. And kind of struck my conscious about what has happened recently. Like today, I did some errants for my mother by buying some things for her. I went to a mall (actually it can’t be called a mall tough but i try to stress the fact that the place where I went is a very big place and a palce to shop). When I was walking pass a shop, there’s a paper with this things written :

” Don’t throw rubbish in here except you’re a KINGKONG”

I laugh when i read this warning. I mean, what has caused the shop owner so angry that he decide to write this stuff.

Peoples in Indonesia has a a low enviromental aware. So, don’t be surprised when a lot of awful things happen in Indonesia. Named every disaster that you know and yes we almost have it all.

landslide? done.

flood? daily routine..it look as if it’s an oldfriend that keep on coming back.

tsunami?done.

And , the most stupid thing is we don’t aware about what has happened and what cause it. take flood for instance, major cities like Jakarta for instance. They have flood since I-don’t-know-when (which means it has happened for a long time), still the peoples don’t have a self aware. Keep on throwing things away as they like. They don’t care what the impacts are. All they can do is get angry when the flood come, and point out who has made a mistake. Some things happen in the other city.

Remember KingKong movie ? That’s one of the movie that make me cry and hate ourself as a human. I know the movie isn’t real. But the way we as a human exploit animal shows how cruel we are. And made me questioning, which one is more human ? the KingKong or the human. Much worst, right now as a human we are capable of doing everything as long as it doesn’t hurt us. Killing, corruption, robbing, bombing…that sort of things.

So, ask yourself. What’s yourself trully are. Human with no feeling or an animal ?

If you still think you are a huma or at least has a bit of human side, start to think correctly. Stop hurting others with our ignorance ( which mean, throwing rubbish as we like is also one of the example), tolerance, stop the jealousy since it will bring nothing positive. Or do a simple thing, smile towards others. It will bring us a great impact and great environment.

Stop the global warming and stop making ourself change from human to animal.

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Tattoo and Curiousity


Ah….another topic about Indonesia’s people way of thinking ( remember this is based on my personal opinion ). So, yesterday since I have the mood to have a tattoo in my left hand, I asked my sister to draw. It’s not a permanent one, only temporary. My sister drew a very beautiful flower on the back of my left hand. She even painted the flower with several colours using the pen and marker.

The result? it’s so great that make me feel bad if I erease it straight away. I feel she has put a lot of effort on this. So, I let te tattoo in my left hand until today.

A bit flash back, couple years ago, I took an English Course and had a teacher named Moin. He is from UK but his family originally are from Pakistan. So, he have a beard. And he said this in the class :

” I feel weird whenever I walk in public. People are staring at me. Anyone know why is that?”

We, answered :

” Your beard kind of unusual, and yes we, Indonesian peoples like to stare in to something weird ot something unusual”

He nodded and understand.

Back to the tattoo thing. My mom asked me to do several things for her, so like it or not I have to do it. I went to a public place ( a.k.a Department Store). Guess what ? The thing that had happened with Moin happens to me too. Somehow, peoples are trying to take a peek of my left hand with the tattoo. I acted cool tough, I act as if I don’t aware with people’s attention towards my hand. When I got back home, I got this problem in my head that need an answer. What are they thinking about me ? I mean, people who has tattoo usually being judged as bad people. For me, I don’t care about what others look like. It’s their choice beside deciding people’s personality based on his/her appearance it’s not a valid thing and show how narrow minded we are.

So, stop staring and talking about peoples who are different with you.

My tattoo:

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new DVDs again !


last week..I bought

1. You’ve got Mail - Meg Ryan and Tom Hanks ( classic..but not boring ! )

2. Atonement - Kiera Knightley

3. Life Support - Queen Latifah

So far, I’ve just watched Life Support..a good movie and surprise that Queen Latifah can act seriously..:)

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